Wisdom of Resilience

In life we have times when we feel stagnant and that opportunities are not coming our way and that what we desire is just out of reach. We just need a bit of encouragement and insight or WISDOM to help us course-correct and create the lives we desire. Here is some wisdom to help you get unstuck and move forward. Read below.



More than ever there have been times I’ve had discussions with friends and associates in both personal and casual settings about how we are feeling about the progressive movement of our lives. I think we all have those times when we feel stagnant and that things are not moving fast enough towards our goals or that opportunities are not presenting themselves in the way we have envisioned. You want that career achievement, that financial success, to meet that someone special, and it seems just out of reach.

Well, that is where your strength supports you and you break through the obstacles that are in your way. You have the courage which has gotten you this far. You have stepped up and into a space of confidence and knowledge and just need a little encouragement and insight or wisdom to unstick you.

Being wise is a mental, emotional, and spiritual growth characteristic that is achieved by observing and living through life’s experiences. There are shortcuts to wisdom. Taking advice from those who have reached the highly respected Wise label is an easier route to understanding life’s puzzle. It can soften and sometimes avoid pain and disappointments of actually living through some experiences. 

Claiming to have a degree in the hard knocks of life is no shield from repetitive experiences of failure or defeat, but a little advice can help you course correct in your journey for a smoother arrival. 

Resilience is evidence of courage, strength and wisdom.”

Dr. Kat Smith

You’ve Got This!

You’ve shown the: 

Courage: the ability to stand up for what you want and choose change. The heart to step out from your safety zone and go after your dreams and goals. 

Possess the:

Strength: the power to endure and stay on course with your focus or vision for the  life or career you desire 

Now I share some of the:

Wisdom: to help us be mindful enough and open up and learn from our mistakes and those of others and develop our resilience. Moving forward and gaining knowledge and skill to grow and prosper.

  1. “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.” – Bernard M. Maruch.  
    1. Be your authentic self at all times. You are best at being you and no one can give the world what you have to share. 
    2. Start with where you are – who you are and from there you have the foundation and wisdom of all your experiences, desires and goals. There you can set boundaries and convictions and give purpose and meaning to your life and focus. 
    3. Let go of the dirty little secret  of Impostor syndrome – a psychological pattern when deep down you doubt your accomplishments and reflect a belief of inadequacy and that you are an incompetent failure despite evidence of your skill and success. This fear of being exposed as a “fraud” and that your accomplishments are a result of serendipitous luck only fosters stress and anxiety. Acknowledge your achievements and go for what you want and life and relish each victory.
  2. Life is a song, sing it. Life is a struggle, accept it. Life is an opportunity, benefit from it. Life is beauty, admire it. Life is a dream, realize it. Life is a challenge, we must take it.”  – Mother Teresa. 
    1. Show up for life. Live in the present and let go of the past or haunting negative comments.
    2. Accept the challenge and go for the victory. Dream it, realize it. Yes, you may feel stuck at this moment but like all moments, they pass and this too shall make you more resilient.
  3. “Fall Forward.” – Denzel Washington. 
    1. Never give up, learn from every experience, not afraid of being wrong to reinforce your perseverance. 
    2. Remember insanity is repeating the same thing over again expecting different outcome. Even scientist learn from each experiment when perfecting its outcome.
    3. Apply yourself to your desires and relish in both your failures and successes for they afford you growth.

In closing, “The tragedy of life is often not in our failure, but rather in our complacency; not in our doing too much, but rather in our doing too little; not in our living above our ability, but rather in our living below our capacities.” – Benjamin E. Mays. 

Thoughts, ideas and dreams can remain on hold without action and the application of emotion. 

And though we may have heard the comment “Opinion are like buttholes. Everyone has one” – the previous advice is an opinion derived from experience and expertise. You can take it or leave it. Unstick yourself from the insanity. It’s your choice – You are free to do things over and over again or you can learn from others and reach a different outcome. Which is a wise decision.