10 Tips for a More Resilient You

Read below as Dr. Kat shares 10 Easily applied tips and ways of being for a More Resilient You.



10 Effective Ways to Develop a More Resilient YOU

1. Believe in YOU – Have a belief in your ideas, concepts, products, and services, but most of all, believe in what you have to offer others.
2. Stay Humble – Keep in mind not to overdo your self-promotion. People are turned off by pushy, obnoxious people. People love to buy things but hate the feeling of being SOLD TO.
3. Remain Grounded – As Your Business Grows Don’t allow your ego to get in the way of common business sense and effective self-promotion.
4. Talk to new people everywhere you go. Talk on elevators, talk on airplanes, talk on trains – talk, talk, talk! Meet as many new people as you can every day. You never know where your next great opportunity will appear. Be ready, because they will appear everywhere. 115
5. Be Prepared – Carry a sample of your products and/or a description of your services, and your business cards EVERYWHERE you go. You never know when you will get an opportunity to promote yourself and help others in the process.
6. Practice the Science & Art of Effective Self-Promotion – As you begin to feel more comfortable with the concept, step out of your comfort zone, and journal your shameless success step-by-step.
7. Keep a Positive Attitude & Create Contagious Enthusiasm – Your mood affects your beliefs, which in turn, determines the level of your personal and professional success. Staying positive and enthusiastic is essential to successful self-promotion! Be consciously aware of your energy and emotions at all times.
8. Seek Out & Act on More Opportunities – Look for opportunities EVERYWHERE. They are all around you. Be open-minded to new ideas and new business ventures.
9. Take Your Expertise to a Higher Level of Success – As you continue to learn and grow, you will being to have revolutionary thinking and start to think outside of your comfort level. Promote your expertise by telling people what you do best.
10. Break the Mold & Create Your Own Unique Style – Don’t be a conformist. To be truly successful, you must be unique in some way. Discover new ways to stand out and be different from your competitors.

Making an Impact

Dr. Kat speaks with a personal brand strategist, author, and speaker – The Marketing Lady herself Tarsha Polk. About her latest book Making an Impact. We get into how resilience plays a part in the effectiveness of your personal brand


The Resilience of Unlabeling

We all have labels placed upon us and we accept some and reject others as we evolve in this thing called life. In this episode of #ResilientLivingTV, Dr. Kat Smith speaks with Dr. Cara Tucker who shares with us her theories surrounding labels in her book Unlabeled where she takes her readers into the depth of the psyche with elements of practical advice and checklists to the journal for further exploration. Join us for some insight into owning or letting go of labels.



Wisdom of Resilience

In life we have times when we feel stagnant and that opportunities are not coming our way and that what we desire is just out of reach. We just need a bit of encouragement and insight or WISDOM to help us course-correct and create the lives we desire. Here is some wisdom to help you get unstuck and move forward. Read below.



More than ever there have been times I’ve had discussions with friends and associates in both personal and casual settings about how we are feeling about the progressive movement of our lives. I think we all have those times when we feel stagnant and that things are not moving fast enough towards our goals or that opportunities are not presenting themselves in the way we have envisioned. You want that career achievement, that financial success, to meet that someone special, and it seems just out of reach.

Well, that is where your strength supports you and you break through the obstacles that are in your way. You have the courage which has gotten you this far. You have stepped up and into a space of confidence and knowledge and just need a little encouragement and insight or wisdom to unstick you.

Being wise is a mental, emotional, and spiritual growth characteristic that is achieved by observing and living through life’s experiences. There are shortcuts to wisdom. Taking advice from those who have reached the highly respected Wise label is an easier route to understanding life’s puzzle. It can soften and sometimes avoid pain and disappointments of actually living through some experiences. 

Claiming to have a degree in the hard knocks of life is no shield from repetitive experiences of failure or defeat, but a little advice can help you course correct in your journey for a smoother arrival. 

Resilience is evidence of courage, strength and wisdom.”

Dr. Kat Smith

You’ve Got This!

You’ve shown the: 

Courage: the ability to stand up for what you want and choose change. The heart to step out from your safety zone and go after your dreams and goals. 

Possess the:

Strength: the power to endure and stay on course with your focus or vision for the  life or career you desire 

Now I share some of the:

Wisdom: to help us be mindful enough and open up and learn from our mistakes and those of others and develop our resilience. Moving forward and gaining knowledge and skill to grow and prosper.

  1. “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.” – Bernard M. Maruch.  
    1. Be your authentic self at all times. You are best at being you and no one can give the world what you have to share. 
    2. Start with where you are – who you are and from there you have the foundation and wisdom of all your experiences, desires and goals. There you can set boundaries and convictions and give purpose and meaning to your life and focus. 
    3. Let go of the dirty little secret  of Impostor syndrome – a psychological pattern when deep down you doubt your accomplishments and reflect a belief of inadequacy and that you are an incompetent failure despite evidence of your skill and success. This fear of being exposed as a “fraud” and that your accomplishments are a result of serendipitous luck only fosters stress and anxiety. Acknowledge your achievements and go for what you want and life and relish each victory.
  2. Life is a song, sing it. Life is a struggle, accept it. Life is an opportunity, benefit from it. Life is beauty, admire it. Life is a dream, realize it. Life is a challenge, we must take it.”  – Mother Teresa. 
    1. Show up for life. Live in the present and let go of the past or haunting negative comments.
    2. Accept the challenge and go for the victory. Dream it, realize it. Yes, you may feel stuck at this moment but like all moments, they pass and this too shall make you more resilient.
  3. “Fall Forward.” – Denzel Washington. 
    1. Never give up, learn from every experience, not afraid of being wrong to reinforce your perseverance. 
    2. Remember insanity is repeating the same thing over again expecting different outcome. Even scientist learn from each experiment when perfecting its outcome.
    3. Apply yourself to your desires and relish in both your failures and successes for they afford you growth.

In closing, “The tragedy of life is often not in our failure, but rather in our complacency; not in our doing too much, but rather in our doing too little; not in our living above our ability, but rather in our living below our capacities.” – Benjamin E. Mays. 

Thoughts, ideas and dreams can remain on hold without action and the application of emotion. 

And though we may have heard the comment “Opinion are like buttholes. Everyone has one” – the previous advice is an opinion derived from experience and expertise. You can take it or leave it. Unstick yourself from the insanity. It’s your choice – You are free to do things over and over again or you can learn from others and reach a different outcome. Which is a wise decision.

3 Steps to Creating Change

Living Resiliently requires evolving as life happens. As life changes so must we. How we change is most important. With today’s challenges, we have to seize the opportunity to create change that fits our life vision. Here are 3 steps to Creating Change.



3 Steps to Creating Change

In today’s challenges of rattled politics, abuse of power, harassment and assault, inequality, racism, and the list goes on, we are overwhelmed and need inspiration, reconciliation, answers, healing, respect, and a plan for change.

Considering that we all have our own perspective of happiness, success, peace, etc, we can all agree that in order to gain the space where we feel in harmony with the life we have to take steps to invite balance and understanding with observation and less reaction.

Taking heart and motivation, we can open up to change we then create resilience with a few tips:

Embrace Collaboration
I prefer collaboration over compromise, why? Because to me, when there is a compromise, someone loses. But, when there is collaboration, there is a joined effort to bring about a mutually desired outcome.

“I can do things you cannot, you can do things I cannot; together we can do great things.” Mother Teresa

We all have gifts and talents that we can use and share to help ourselves and others. Knowing your strengths and weaknesses is valuable in having the ability to delegate tasks that are best performed by you or another who is better suited. I am not a plumber and have no desire to be. I hire one to do the work I am not skilled or want to do.

“No one can whistle a symphony. It takes a whole orchestra to play it.” – H.E. Luccock
When I am relieved of those tasks, my time is freed up to concentrate on doing what I love, enjoy, or skilled in doing. This reduces stress and feelings of overwhelm and frustration.

Embrace Self Control
We only have control of ourselves and if you change yourself you take a step towards the changes the world needs.

“You must be the change you want to see in the world.” Mahatma Gandhi

By first acknowledging or identifying what changes need to take place, we can implement a plan to install those changes and bring about our desired outcome.

“The great secret of getting what you want from life is to know what you want and believe you can have it.” Norman Vincent Peale

Any idea begins with a thought or an inner vision. How your vision plays out for you can be manipulated by your thoughts and beliefs. Change begins in you when you investigate your thoughts and beliefs and adjust your perspective or views to align with your outcome.

If you have been feeling out of sorts you can design more balance and harmony by BEING balanced and in harmony with your self and your life. This one step is key to bringing about the change we seek.

Embrace Living
Detach from the virtual world and get back to real life. There truly is a loneliness epidemic because we are less engaged with each other and with nature. Our world is suffering as we. Climate change and mood changes are resulting in life destruction. We are killing each other and the planet, whether you believe it or not changes are occurring. Just look at the number of school shootings.

“Life is a song, sing it. Life is a struggle, accept it. Life is an opportunity, benefit from it. Life is beauty, admire it. Life is a dream, realize it. Life is a challenge, we must take it.” Mother Teresa

If we can only take a few moments a day and get out of our heads and devices, we can get back to what is important in our lives; family, love, health, nature and what it provides, and our spirituality. Affording time to dedicate to what is important in your world bring benefits that support the balance and harmony that is highly sought after.

“There are ultimately two choices in life: to fight it or to embrace it. If you fight it you will lose – if you embrace it you become one with it and you’ll be lived.” Rasheed Ogunlaru